Ref, That’s Gotta Be Unnecessary Roughness, Right?

As I said in my last post; our grandson, Mason just started playing flag football. Even though I am new to this and don’t know all the rules; I feel quite certain that tackling your opponent to the ground and sitting on them, over and over again, would be considered unnecessary roughness, or at the very least, unsportsmanlike conduct, right?

Well, apparently; I have different ideas of what the rules of flag football are.

The thing is the coaches on the opposing team weren’t saying anything to their players about it; and neither were the referees. Nothing. At all. Not even a reprimand to the kids. Really? Are you kidding me? Finally one mom on “our team” told her child, “When he comes at you next time; you tackle him.”

Referee

Referee (Photo credit: Brandon Giesbrecht)

Someone jokingly told our daughter and son-in-law that Mason would put some hurting on some kids if he did that. He is a solid boy, if you know what I mean. They both replied at the same time, that not only would Mason NOT do that; but if he saw someone do it, he would tell the person doing it, to stop; and then he would help the person up that got pushed down. That is just how he is.

I noticed that my son-in-law, Kenny, called Mason over to the side and told him that he was doing a good job. He gave him some pointers, some football jargon that I didn’t understand, gave him a high-five, and again told him he was doing a good job. Not once did I hear him encouraging Mason to use the same tactics the other team was using.

I have to say; I was extremely proud of my son-in-law, and extremely proud of both of them for how they are raising our grandkids. What a great example they are setting, not only to Mason, but to whomever may be watching them.

Part of Mason’s cheering section.

Aunt Kara & Uncle Jacob

If you feel you have been attacked by the hurtful words or actions of someone and revenge is alluring to you; Romans 12:17-19 says:

We should “Never pay back evil with more evil. We should do things in such a way that everyone can see we are honorable. Do all that we can to live in peace with everyone. Never take revenge.”

Mason with his dad after the game. Mason’s team went on to win 28-0.

May you all be extremely blessed,

Sheri Haskins : )

Empty Chocolate Covered Marshmallow Egg Carton & Peter Pan Peanut Butter Jar – Ugh!!

I have to say that the way holidays are so commercialized, makes me a little sad. We hardly see one go by before there are displays for the next one. Of course it is up to us, individually; to celebrate the true meaning of each one; don’t you think? But I have to admit that I do enjoy some of the sweet treats that come with the holidays.

This Easter, my youngest daughter, Kara, and I were in Athens visiting my daughter, Amber, who will be graduating from UGA in May. Kara and I returned home that evening to find some treats that my husband had bought for us, chocolate bunnies, chocolate covered marshmallow eggs (one of my favorites), peeps, & M&M’s. Yeah; I thought it was sweet of him.

I, of course opened my chocolate covered marshmallow eggs first. Like I said; this is one of my favorites. Well; I had no lack of help eating my eggs, which is fine; I don’t mind sharing. So, Friday, I am at home all by myself, all of my eggs have been gone; and I see Kara’s carton on the coffee table. I’m thinking all day, “I’ll just have one of hers.” I mean; she and Roy helped eat mine.

So, I go to get one, after thinking about it all day and; it’s empty! “Seriously? Are you kidding me? Why is it on the coffee table and not in the trash can where it should be? Why would you, whoever ate the last one, leave it here to tease me, to make me think about wanting my favorite Easter treat all day long? Really? What was the purpose in leaving this empty carton on the table?”

“Ok, Sheri, it’s not that big of a deal.” But, I have had a taste for that all day, just thinking about it. You know that feeling? You have your mouth set for something, then, there’s the letdown. Oh, well no need dwelling on it. What good will that do?

So, I pick up the empty carton and take it to the trash. I then see an empty Peter Pan Peanut Butter jar on the kitchen counter. “Really? Why is that not in the trash as well? Can no one remember where the trash can is?” I think to myself, “What purpose was that serving on the counter; taking up space?” But then again, “What purpose does an empty water pitcher serve in the refrigerator?” I have better question, “What purpose does a boat motor serve in the kitchen by my freezer?” Can anyone answer that one?

As I am pondering the answers to my questions; I feel a gentle tug at my heart, as if God is saying, “Just let it go.”

Although I haven’t spoken any words aloud; God sees my heart. I haven’t grumbled and complained out loud for anyone else to hear, even though there is no one else around, it doesn’t matter; Proverbs 23:7 says “As a man, or a woman, (in my case) thinks in her heart, so is she.” 1 Samuel 16:7 tells us that “although man sees what is on the outside, God looks at the heart.” Whether the actual complaint comes out of my mouth or not, does not change what God sees.

Luke 6:45 tells us that “Out of the abundance of the heart our mouth speaks.” So, if I had continued to feed my heart with how I “felt” about the empty carton, the empty peanut butter jar, the empty water pitcher, and anything else that I could think of from two months ago, because we all that’s how it works (or am I the only that is guilty of that); the grumbling and complaining would have eventually came out of my mouth.

We have to be careful what we are allowing in our hearts. Proverbs 4:23 says “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.”

So, I had to get over those silly little things, just as my family has issues with me that they have to overlook as well.

Colossians 3:13&14 says “Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony.”

We have to remember to do as Philippians 2:14&15 says “all things without complaining and disputing, so that we may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom we shine as lights in the world.”

Who knew that it would take an empty chocolate covered marshmallow egg carton and a Peter Pan Peanut Butter jar to remind me of that.

May you all be extremely blessed,
Sheri Haskins : )

How Jamie Nunnally’s CD Helped Save My Marriage

“Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.” Philippians 4:8

It was Saturday, February 25, 2012; my husband, Roy, and I were headed to Norman Park, Ga. to see our youngest daughter, Kara, perform at her District Honor Band Concert that began at 4 p.m. I stated my desire to leave around 2:45 p.m. The drive, from our house, takes around 45 minutes, with no unexpected stops or detours along the way. This is something I wanted to arrive early at, not only because there would be a lot of people attending, but because I wanted to see Kara, who had arrived on Friday, to wish her luck and take pictures of her with her friends in their uniforms before she performed.

I begin trying to wake Roy from a nap about an hour before we have to leave, but he isn’t responding. I continue to try to wake him over and over. He finally makes it to the shower; but at the last minute decides to pick out a shirt that needs to be pressed over. “Ok”, I think to myself, “I am not going to let this get to me.” The shirt is pressed. We are ready to leave, right? I have everything together and go to the car. I get in and crank it up. I am sitting there waiting and waiting on him. “What is he doing?” I feel my blood pressure beginning to rise ever so slightly. Then my phone rings. It’s my mom, who happens to live in Illinois. So, I’m talking to her while I’m waiting on Roy (trying not to think about what time it is). He finally comes out the door. Then he stops and smokes a cigarette. Really?

He gets in the car at 3:10 p.m. We are on our way. Finally! Then he asks me if Hwy 188 is still out going to Coolidge, which by the way; I never drive this road. I say “I don’t know.” I think to myself, while still on the phone with my mom, “Really; how am I supposed to know? You know I never go this way. Seriously?” The detour signs are still up, but the road block signs are down. But; instead of being safe and travelling an alternate road; he takes a chance and goes down a road that could possibly still be out. Yeah. So; we are driving down Hwy 188 all the way until there is, guess what, no more road. Yep. Now we have to turn around and take that alternate road anyway. Oh my gosh! I feel my blood pressure rising even more now. I am still on the phone with my mom at this point, which is probably a good thing. I am trying my very best to concentrate on what my mom is saying; but it really is hard. I have these thoughts “I will never forgive him if we don’t make it in time to see Kara perform.”

Now; I know that I have to forgive him. This is just what pops in my head. I am being open and honest with you. You may think this a little extreme; but I do have issues in this area. My mom must sense that I am not fully engaged in the conversation. She tells me that she will let me go, and to tell Kara that she is proud of her. After hanging up with my mom, my first thoughts were to say, (among other things) “You see, this is exactly why we should have left early.” But, instead; I hit the CD button on the stereo in the car and Jamie Nunnally started singing “Save me from all the things that keep me far from my King. Make me who you want me to be. I give You everything!”

Yep! I definitely needed saving right then, from my own thoughts, and from saying things that would have started an argument. The best thing that I could do was to ask God to forgive me for the impure thoughts that I was having towards Roy; and then redirect my thoughts. We arrived at Norman Park at 3:56 p.m. They were just announcing the middle school band when we were walking in. Before Kara’s performance with the high school band; I had the opportunity to sneak down to the stage, while they were setting up, to let her know we were there and to wish her luck. Luckily, our oldest daughter and her husband arrived early; and she was able to take some pictures of Kara in her uniform for me.

I could have chosen to follow through with my thoughts and said what was on my mind. Things would have definitely turned out a lot differently. But, for some reason, I took a deep breath, looked down and hit that button instead. At first I just listened to Jamie. It wasn’t long before I was singing along with him. After that; I began praying, asking God’s forgiveness and thanking Him that I had access to that CD to redirect my thoughts on something pure, something lovely and praiseworthy.

Galatians 5:16 & 20 says “Walk in the Spirit and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.” such as”contentions, outbursts of wrath”

With each new day that we are given, come choices that we have to make. Perhaps you are presented with a situation where you are treated badly; or you may have someone that is very difficult to get along with in your family, at work or at school. Maybe you feel angry. If it is a continuing situation; you quite possibly could feel discouraged. You cannot change the way that person may choose to act; but you certainly can change the way you choose to think or act. If a thought comes into your mind it doesn’t mean that you have to act on it; and it doesn’t mean that you have to dwell on it either.

Romans 12:1&2 says that “we should present our bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is our reasonable service; and not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of our minds, that we may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”

For me, at that particular place and time; renewing my mind came by listening to Jamie’s CD, which is full of things that are “pure, lovely and praiseworthy”. If you find yourself in a situation where you are in need of redirecting your thoughts and renewing your mind, and worship music is not an option for you; the Word of God is the greatest weapon you can use. The book of Psalms has great praises to God. Replace those wrong thoughts by meditating on a verse from there instead. If you can be thinking bad thoughts about someone while you are working, or whatever it is that you are doing; then surely you can replace those bad thoughts with a scripture that is praising God, right? These are just a few my favorites:

Psalm 71:14 “But I will hope continually, And will praise You yet more and more.”

Psalm 86:12 “I will praise You, O Lord my God, with all my heart, And I will glorify Your name forevermore.”

Psalm 96:4 “For the LORD is great and greatly to be praised”

Psalm 145:3 “Great is the LORD, and greatly to be praised; And His greatness is unsearchable.”

Psalm 150:2 “Praise Him for His mighty acts; Praise Him according to His excellent greatness!”

As I select scripture; I find ones that express how I feel personally, from my heart, toward God. I find that it is easier to remember scripture if they are of personal significance to me.

Now, as far as my marriage is concerned; am I saying that it would have ended that day if I would have voiced my thoughts? Not necessarily. What I am saying, is that it could have brought on the beginning of an argument that could have escalated into something very nasty, therefore; who knows where that would have led?

God will allow Satan to use circumstances in our lives to tempt and test us. Just take a look at Matthew 4 where Jesus was tempted by Satan. Jesus used the Word of God against Satan. Jesus should be our example.

If you are married; then I can almost guarantee that you have areas where you and your spouse disagree. I am not saying that you argue. I am saying that you probably disagree. There is a difference.

I can assure you, that our enemy, Satan, would love nothing more than to cause conflict in our
homes, in our workplaces, in our churches, in all of our relationships. To not believe this is naïve.

1 Peter 5:8 clearly says “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.”

2 Corinthians 10:3 tells us “For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh.”

We should recognize spiritual attacks for what they are and stand our ground because; Luke 10:19 tells us “Behold, I give you the authority to trample on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing shall by any means hurt you.”

Just know that you have authority over the thoughts you think. You can choose to redirect them and not act on them. No matter what else is going on, no matter what anyone else is saying or doing; you are in control of what you think and do.

1 Corinthians 10:13 tells us that “No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.”

I was tempted to say things that I knew would cause conflict in my marriage and strife in my home; but God provided a way of escape through Jamie’s music. As I listened to Jamie sing; my mind was being renewed by the words I was hearing. As I began to sing and worship God; my heart and my spirit were being refreshed. God is so good!

May you be extremely blessed,
Sheri Haskins

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